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New couples counseling training

March 27th, 2014 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Couples - (0 Comments)

Recently, I had the fortune of attending the Level 2 Training for Gottman Couples Therapy in Seattle, WA. Came back with new resources and knowledge that I am eager to apply to my work with couples.

$25.00 fee no longer available

March 27th, 2014 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Dear prospect clients, we are no longer offering the $25.00 sessions. We apologize for any inconvenienence.

Farewell to our Student Intern

February 5th, 2014 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Guillermo  has been a valuable addition to our practice. As a student , he is moving on to another internship and we want to wish him well.

Good Luck Guillermo, and thank you for your help. We wish you all the success in the world.

Marriage Seminar

October 4th, 2013 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

This past weekend I had the pleasure of attending a training in Dallas. It was sponsored by National Marriage Seminars and it was called Gottamn Method Couples Therapy Level 1: Bridging the Couple Chasm.

The Smoke Screen of Anger

May 24th, 2013 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Anger | Children | Couples - (0 Comments)

When it comes to anger, either in adults, children or as a couple,  it is easy to ignore any other feeling behind it. Could it be sadness, shame, hurt,depression or any other feeling that might make the angry person feel vulnerable.

When we look behind the smoke screen of anger, we might realize that this is about a lot more than what is being presented at that moment. A feeling so threatening, that is it hard  to reach for

it and express it as it is., and it might leave us confused.

So next time you feel angry, ask yourself- What other feeling can I be experiencing right now? and open the conversation to other venues.



Memorial Day- in Remembrance

May 21st, 2013 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Military - (0 Comments)

Memorial Day‎

Memorial Day

May 20th, 2013 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

As Memorial Day approaches- I would like to take a moment to thank our Military for their service. As a provider- I am in contact with a lot of Military personnel- in my office

and in my previous service as a counseling consultant on a variety of Military Posts around the world- I do appreciate what you do on a daily basis.

This day, also serves in Remembrance, of all those who have passed through this life, leaving their mark on this earth and in our lives.

May you rest in peace.



Spring Break and parenting

March 19th, 2013 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Children - (0 Comments)

Time to create some happy memories with your children- get them away from the TV and video games. Our children need time to

enjoy themselves, bond with us and learn to socialize. do not wait until they get bored and start fighting, prevention is a better

intervention. On the other hand, children cannot be entertained all the time- so we can teach them to entertain themselves.

There are even times when they need to bear boredom- like everyone else- and that is o.k. too.

Is porn taking the place of real love?

March 15th, 2013 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Couples - (0 Comments)

Is porn substituting real love for fantasies- or can the love co-exist with it. Many wives asks themselves this question. The injury of a husband’s porn watching can leave a wife feeling insecure. She might be comparing her physique to those of porn stars and end up feeling unattractive. To add insult to injury, her husband is most likely not interested in having sex with her. In her mind then, her fears are confirmed- her husband does not love her anymore. What I know is that men addicted to porn, do not want to leave their wives, and they do claim love for them.

It is hard to see through all the flaws and to identify and experience such a love. A lot of work may have to be done in getting a couple closer. It is possible though, many couples do make that commitment.

What Anger Can Tell Us

March 13th, 2013 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Anger - (5 Comments)

Do you imagine what it would be like to not feel physical pain at all. Most people would probably say “Yeah!”  However, pain warns us of danger- a broken back, a stomach virus. Without pain, we would not be aware of a problem. By the time we make it to the doctor, or the MRI test- it could be too late to remedy or , at least, address a problem.

Well, I see a similarity between that physical pain and anger- the kind that can be destructive.

Without anger, we would not know when something is not going well in ourselves or in our surroundings- yes, there are other feelings that can express a situation- but anger is that feeling that- if not acknowledged- can turn out to be destructive.

Notice that there are not  “ Depression” classes’ or “Guilt ”classes, but we do have, and Court Judges order people to “Anger Management” classes.  It is about controlling it, not about ignoring it.