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Civilians Celebrating Veterans Day

November 7th, 2013 | Posted by Memo in Military - (0 Comments)

Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others. – Marcos T. Cicero

 

A friend of mine (we’ll call him Mike) who had joined the military was on his way back to his assigned base from bootcamp with his family.  They decided to eat at a food court in a mall at Atlanta, Georgia.  After ordering, an older gentleman interrupted Mike’s conversation with the cashier to let him know that he, the gentleman, is a U.S. military veteran and that he knew what the men and women in uniform have to go through everyday and that Mike could consider his meal paid as a form of gratitude for his services.  Mike described this interaction as an unforgettable, humbling moment that made him feel that his sacrifice is not in vein.

On November 11, we will celebrate Veterans Day, a day that has been observed since a little after World War I.  It is a day meant to remember and give thanks to those that have been a part of the military throughout the years and have served in every capacity.  In the previous story, it was the veteran that gave thanks, but this upcoming Monday, why not let it be us thanking the vets?

Any gesture will do.  Of course they will not be as easy to recognize since they are not in uniform anymore, but if you know of any friend or family member, buy them lunch, clean their porch, walk their dog, write them a letter, give them a card, hang out, call them or just give say thanks.

Not only does our military have to deal with the stress during battle, but also everywhere else.  It is very hard for them to reajust to everyday life after coming back from being deployed, or moving to yet another city.  Once they come back, many feel like strangers in their own home and they have to deal with new challenges with their workplace, friends, family, and whatever is left from what baggage they are carrying back from the wars.

A token of appreciation would be very welcome then and it could make a difference in their lives.  Maybe we could be thankful to our veterans everyday and not just one day a year.  Anything will do and they will appreciate it more than we can imagine.

- Guillermo

 

Memorial Day video..www.youtube.com/watch?v=voPt5pnEEv0‎

The Five Love Languages

November 1st, 2012 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Couples | Military - (11 Comments)

“The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, is an excellent book about what love means to us individually and how to identify and communicate that to our spouse/partner.

Chapman describes how the way that we give love, is not always the same that we would like to receive it.

For instance, you may be in your comfort zone when you buy your spouse some chocolate. However, you may prefer to receive affection from him/her. By the same token, your spouse/partner may have preferences of their own.

This concept is so effective that the Military has adapted it as the basis for one of their couple’s retreats.

Chapman describes the Love Languages as follows:

#1 Words of Affirmation- Thank you, you are looking good, etc.

#2 Quality Time- meaningful time together- fully present with each other

#3 Receiving Gifts- just as I mentioned above- tokens of love

#4 Acts of Service- making you a cup of coffer, doing laundy.

#5 Physical Touch- a favorite of many- from affection to sex.

The book includes a self-test for Men and Women to identify your primary and secondary preference.

When you take into account these differences, and identify your preference, as well as your

spouse/partner’s preference- you stand a better chance of getting what you want and giving

your spouse/partner what is most meaningful to them.

Military spouses

October 30th, 2012 | Posted by Anastacia Martinez in Military - (1 Comments)

I see i lot of military in my practice- I admire and respect their sacrifice. Military spouses, though, are the unsung heroes. They go unnoticed by the mass media, and generally unappreciated. My hat is off to them.