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Habit Creation, New Year’s Style

January 7th, 2014 | Posted by Memo in Anger | Children | Couples | Parenting

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. - Aristotle


A few days ago, I was reading an El Paso Times article (online, of course, because who reads the newspaper anymore, right?) where one of their famous writers was telling people to give up on new year resolutions because most of them will fail anyway.  On a gym Facebook page, gym members were complaining that at the beginning of the year, the gym gets packed and it’s hard to exercise.  They were saying such things as, “Stay home, you’ll never lose the pounds” and “Why even bother? We won’t even see you after the Superbowl!”  Actually, a lot of people do give up way before the Superbowl is on the big screen in our living rooms.

Which brings a question to mind.  Should we listen to the naysayers because they are correct in saying that only a few people will succeed?  To me, it’s like telling our kids not to go to college because only a minority of El Pasoans graduate.  Isn’t that setting a glass ceiling there?  Follow the sheep and you’ll be alright.

We are full of old habits such as fighting at home, screaming in anger when we are frustrated, not being able to trust others, not being able to make a lifestyle change, and many others, that it seems impossible to do something different.  Creating a new habit takes a lot of time and effort, it’s not magic.  Yet we look for the magic pill in everything that we do and we put our time and effort into it hoping that we don’t have to do a thing.

Well, the magic pill doesn’t exist, but there is something else for us to choose that will help us even better.  It’s called perseverance.  Every habit can be changed, and most a small step at a time.  Persevering with the right strategy is the way to go because using the wrong strategy over and over will not do.

The time is now, you either follow the sheep like the naysayers say or you make your own path of living a life of happiness and harmony.  It is up to you and no one else.  Nobody can tell you that your marriage or family will fail or that you can’t come out of your shell.  Only you can dictate that.  Yes, the time is now.

Thank you for reading once again,

- Guillermo


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